I realized I had the power to reclaim my self-confidence and to believe in myself. I decided to drop the story about being undervalued and decided to feel proud of what I was doing no matter what. The good news is that you can better understand how your mind works and you can start choosing new thoughts to try-on. That’s a natural tendency too, we all want to be valued, but we need to value ourselves first and find our value within ourselves. Simply put, I wanted external validation. I was making my story mean that I wasn’t doing a good job because the people around me weren’t valuing me in the way I desired. It’s a natural tendency of our brains.īut what are you making the story in your head mean about you? Our brains are wired to tell stories and to make connections. The more I thought this way, the less I appreciated myself and valued the work I was doing. Over time I realized that these thoughts were not the ones I wanted to live with, they were simply the stories my brain made up about the situation.Īnd these thoughts produced the opposite result I was looking for. We often produce the exact opposite of the result we want by believing the stories our brains are creating. It was exhausting and it didn’t get me anywhere. I’d take it to work with me in the morning, and drag it home with me at night. I carried around this story for a long time, like a big bag of rocks. I created a lot of story around being under-appreciated and undervalued. I used to create a lot of drama about what other people thought about the work I was doing. How would thinking more neutral about a situation at work benefit you? Rather than believing your own story about a situation, how can you be more intentional with your thoughts? A big bag of rocks It’s your thoughts about a situation that create your experience of it. There’s a difference between your thoughts and what actually happens in your life. Why do you choose to believe everything your mind tells you? Your life is created by your thoughts Your story is not the facts, it’s not the truth. You’ve experienced this before, right? Story versus factsĭo you know that the story your brain tells you are not the facts?įacts are things that can be proven in a court of law, that everyone would agree with. The more your mind thinks about it, the more stories it creates. You try to stop but your brain keeps creating more and more thoughts about it. Your mind keeps going round and round in a loop, repeating the same thing over and over. So many different thoughts go through your head it makes you dizzy. If you’re at a crossroads, ready to get help, and willing to invest in yourself and your future, click below to schedule a complimentary mini-session with me to see how we can work together.A situation happens at work and your mind is spinning about it. I needed to give myself permission to be myself. My coach helped me work through the thoughts and feelings that were holding me back from being who I wanted to be and doing the work I really want to do. It felt like removing a veil to see clearly what was really going on. I learned I was struggling because of the beliefs I held about myself and my life. Working with a life coach really opened my eyes, it was different than anything I ever experienced before. I found the help I needed and hired a coach, it made all the difference. I was spending too much of my time doing work that wasn’t meaningful to me. I loved teaching designers but my work focused less on what I really liked to do - connecting with designers and creatives to guide and support their future goals. I felt lost, unfocused and no longer felt I was giving enough priority to what I valued or connected with my real purpose. Over the years, I expected that my future would become clearer but as a entered the next phase of my design career what I discovered was it actuality got murkier. I’m a certified life coach, designer, entrepreneur, and former design educator and I was in a similar place as you are now. There’s a part of you that thinks you should be able to figure this out on your own - but so far it’s not happening! With so much uncertainty in the world and so many unknowns, you know now is the time to take a closer look and finally get clear about your future and what you really want to do.Īre you on the right path? You don’t know. You’re exhausted from working too much leaving you without any energy or time to think about your future. You want to feel good about going to work every day. You want to work with people you can learn from. Being a designer doesn’t excite you like it once did because you want to do meaningful work.
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